You may or may not have seen this Dove Real Beauty video that has been doing the rounds on facebook.
I personally think it gets to the heart of the reason most of my clients come to see me. It has come in for some criticism around the definition of beauty and whether we should be concerning ourselves with beauty at all or judge our value on other things (you can read that blog here ) and today I want to explain why I think that it’s OK to want to be beautiful.
I actually really like the Dove Real Beauty Campaign because it challenges the traditional ideas of beauty and always has. It shows real women in all their voluptuous and slim glory. In general I believe it represents women or a variety of ages, sizes and ethnic backgrounds and encourages us to realise that we are all beautiful in our own ways.
Why should beauty be that be important?
Honestly? I don’t know. I just know, that to my clients (real women) that it is. Perhaps it comes from the fact that our brains, as developed as they are, still search out mates to procreate the species, and these mates are chosen from those who we perceive to be ‘attractive’ or beautiful.
The point that Dove are making in their ‘Beauty Sketches’ video is that we are always harder on ourselves than others are. We always blow our inadequacies up out of proportion and others often don’t even notice them and may even find them endearing! The other point I take from it is that (as the old saying goes) ‘Beauty is in the eye of the beholder’. That what you or I may think is one of our bad points may, to someone else be a good point. We look at ourselves in the mirror in a critical way, staring hard at our imperfections. We may miss the sparkle we get in our eyes when we talk in an animated way about something we love or feel passionate about and that sparkle changes the way our eyes look to others.
I don’t think beauty and body size are linked at all.
Although most of my clients do. And I don’t think striving to be or to feel beautiful is shallow or anti-feminist or wrong. I want to feel beautiful when I get dressed up to go out and I want Mr S to think I’m beautiful. I also want to be recognised as Mr S’ intellectual equal (which I am ) and as an intelligent professional in my business. The 2 are not mutually exclusive. Just because I want to be recognised as beautiful does not mean I give up my right to be judged as an equal in the world.
As I said earlier, my clients want to feel attractive, it comes up on my initial questionnaire with virtually every client. Just look at sales of make up, hair straighteners, perfume, body and face creams. As women we want to enhance our beauty and make ourselves attractive and in my opinion there’s nothing wrong with that.
My only word of caution is that if you look carefully you’ll probably find that you already possess a natural beauty. Smile at yourself and see how your eyes light up and how much better your face looks when you laugh. Check out your curves; even the wobbly bits can be beautiful. Don’t put your life on hold waiting to lose the weight before you celebrate your beauty and if you need a hand with that let me know – I have hundreds of techniques to help you with it.
Have you watched the Dove video? What did you think? Leave me a comment with your thoughts below.