I know that my advice is often going against everything you’ve been told before but listen, successful people don’t follow the crowd. (Seriously, ask Richard Branson, Lord Sugar and the like).
My advice is not the same as the diet and weight loss gurus because, long term, theirs doesn’t work. So, when you hear the ‘crowd’ telling you that you need to wait until you’ve lost weight to buy any new clothes, or you need to wait until you’ve lost a stone to rewards yourself with a spa or a manicure or a bubble bath or whatever it is, IGNORE THEM. [Tweet “Successful people don’t follow the crowd”]
As a busy, working mum you have limited time and probably limited money to spend on yourself. But make both of those count and make sure that you are living the most fulfilled life that you can live right now!
Whoever said you won’t get the time back was right. Your kids are growing and changing and your relationship with them is changing all the time. As a mum you need to seize that time, enjoy as much of it as you can and make those memories that they and you will remember. If you’re a working mum, that time is really limited so it has to be quality and not quantity. So take those trips, take them swimming and don’t worry about your love handles, go on those beach holidays, climb those rocks and share that time.
It’s not selfish to want to spend time on your own when you’re a busy mum. You need that time on your own too. ‘Me time’ is better in small chunks daily than an afternoon once a month because it gives you an opportunity to recharge your batteries and make you better able to cope with daily life every day. Some days you may have more time than others but on really busy days I like to get up 10 minutes early, grab my book and make a cup of coffee and take 10 minutes before the general onslaught of daily life. Other days you may be able to slot a bit more in and certainly sometimes you may want an afternoon or a full day off. Don’t feel guilty for taking this time out – it makes you a better you because you are more relaxed and centered.
Nurture your relationship
Becoming parents is a big step and once a baby arrives there is no let up. Children don’t get easier they get different, in my experience and waiting until they sleep through / need less attention / are older rarely works. Making time to be a couple rather than parents is one of the best things you can do for your family. It will help keep you acting as a team, keep you close and remind you of the people you are when you are not ‘mum’ and ‘dad’. Try to make time once a week to be fully present together as a couple, even if all it means is a later meal together at home once a week, forgetting the TV in favour of talking to each other.
Happiness is next to weightlessness
By living your life to the full and being present in all those areas you can minimise the tendency to eat emotionally and out of boredom. You can incorporate more activity when you spend time with family or on your own. And by taking the pressure off ‘losing weight’ and focusing on living your life now, you may be surprised 🙂
You can find out more about the connection between happiness, a fulfilled life and your weight when you download my free ebook ‘3 Secrets EVERY mum needs to know about losing weight’