My whole business and core belief system is based on positive thinking, so please don’t misunderstand today’s post! However, this week has been a week of setbacks and difficulties and dare I say it a somewhat trying experience.
As many people do from time to time I have changed my broadband provider and it was supposed to be simple, quick and easy. I’m not going to tell you who from and who to, however, it was a disaster from the start and the knock on effect has been incredible. I’m also not going to bore you with details but the changeover has affected my phone line, my house alarm, my emails, my facebook account, my family, delayed a night out and hindered my working ability – to such an extent that this post almost had to be written entirely on my phone! (And as I go to press on Friday I still haven’t sorted out my emails to satisfaction!)
So, what does that have to do with you guys? Well, life isn’t one big jolly holiday is it? Sometimes, as a mum, there are events and happenings that will set you back and how you learn to react to these is really important. Negativity and moaning (yes we all do it from time to time) may make you feel a bit better in the short term but focusing on the negative side of things is not going to solve your problem and make you feel good in the long term.
Negativity will not only bring you down but also others around you. I’m not saying if you have a real problem or difficulty you shouldn’t share it with a few close friends but if you find yourself moaning about your problems to everyone you come into contact with it may be time for a rethink! I will admit that I have ducked down an aisle in the supermarket just to avoid one of the other school mums who always has something to gripe about 😉
Rather than a moaner and a problem finder you need to focus on being a problem solver. Looking at the situation and finding a solution. Ok, so it may not be the one you originally planned on but that option’s gone now, no point dwelling on it. People who are flexible and open to finding solutions are not only happier but often better liked and listened to; the person with the ideas and the answer to the problem is one to gravitate towards in most people’s eyes.
Positivity and a positive and optimistic outlook will help you to feel better too. Finding the solution and working it out can give you a boost and a great sense of achievement in addition to a way to move forward. It will set you up as a leader and a great person to be around and that can also give you a confidence boost.
Be careful not to paper over the cracks though. Pretending to be positive and feeling really bad about it underneath is not the idea here. You really and truly have to believe in your positive outlook and your solution. You have to believe that it’s not the end of the world and there is a solution that, in the long run, will be even better than the one you had. This takes constant practice but the benefits are immense.
So how does this link to weight loss? Well, if you don’t dwell on the setbacks and don’t melt down into a chocolate sea of depression at every time you feel bloated or each time you miss a training session then the journey will be far easier. You’ll just rethink the next steps and move on with the next stage of the journey.
For myself, I’m working through the email and internet issues systematically and one by one. And if you want more ideas for improving your positive mindset then you’ll want to download my free Ebook “3 Secrets EVERY mums needs to know about weight loss”