It’s a real dilemma isn’t it; how can you achieve body confidence if you are so desperately unhappy with the amount of extra weight you are carrying round.
For me, the two are separate issues. Weight loss and body confidence. You see there’s this whole movement telling you to ‘love your body’ but you’re right, if you need or want to lose some of it then you really can’t be in love with it at the same time.
But body confidence isn’t really about ‘loving your body’. It’s about respecting, honouring and appreciating it whilst you live in it and accept it and most importantly, own it.
Body confidence is about accepting what is and not allowing that to dictate how you feel or to let it affect other aspects of your life, such as your career or business or your relationships with others.
Losing weight, on the other hand, is making improvements and aiming for goals. The two are not mutually exclusive, in fact, if you are happy to own your body as it is now, imagine how you could feel about it when you’ve made improvements to it.
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It’s a bit like home improvement, you like your house now – it gives you shelter, it keeps you warm and it allows you to live in an area you love but you’re still going to keep on extending it or decorating it so that it becomes even better.
The problem is that if you are not body confident and you don’t own it or respect it, then you have no motivation to eat right, to exercise or to take care of it. And if you have no motivation to do that then you are not going to be able to lose weight.
So, your task this week is to start taking ownership of the body you have and becoming confident in it, in the space it takes up and the part that it plays in your life.
I’d love to hear your thoughts on this in the comments below.