Today is the first day of the half term break for my kids. I am, in the spirit of being a ‘good mum’, attempting to multi task and work whilst looking after my angels. So, earlier this morning I took a break in order to play a board game with my two youngest daughters.
It’s quite a fun game but it’s one where you make progress round the board until something happens and you have to go back to the start. This is a problem, particularly if, like Titch, you fancy winning! We had one fairly successful game but the second became quite tricky as it progressed and the girls became more and more frustrated as they were sent back to the beginning more and more. Eventually they gave up as they saw it as an impossible task to make it to the end.
Losing weight as a mum can feel like this. Your aim is to get to your goal or target weight or size as quickly as you can and very often you start with great gusto and enthusiasm. However, along the journey, life gets in the way and you back track or even sometimes end up right at the start again. Back here, getting to the end can seem like an impossible task and the effort you put in to get so far seems like a waste with the end goal seeming even more out of reach than when you started.
It is at this point, many of us give up. As a busy mum you have other things on your to do list to worry about. I know because I’ve been there myself. I would convince myself that I was really happy as I was and that I didn’t need to carry on with the diet after all. But really deep down I just felt like a failure and that the situation was hopeless.
So how can we mums make sure we carry on and finish the game and don’t abandon it half way through? This is something I’ve learned and its helped me continue to lose weight, slowly but surely, for nearly a year now.
- Change your interpretation of failure and see it as an opportunity to learn from your mistakes.
- Change your reaction to failure. It was one mistake, a slight detour if you will, but that doesn’t mean that you can’t keep on track.
- Change your expectations. Don’t expect to be perfect all the time, it isn’t reasonable. As a busy mum you just need to try to keep moving forwards and not backwards, however slowly.
- Be flexible not rigid and deny yourself nothing. You’ll be surprised how soon you stop wanting the things that you crave.
The key to successful, permanent weight loss is less about the food you eat and more about your mindset. With that in place you really can get to the end of the game.
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