I hope you are having a great new year and I wish you a fabulous one! This year I am setting goals and targets and making a fresh start. New Year has that feel to it, doesn’t it, that hope, the ‘new slate’ with nothing to spoil it. I often hear people being disparaging about New Year’s Resolutions, the argument being that you don’t stick to them and so they are a waste of time. I am going to respectfully but vehemently disagree, although I will put some disclaimers in there.
Why make a New Year’s Resolution?
Well, if there is something you want to change in your life then I strongly believe you should. You only get one life and quite frankly, if you spend it wishing things were different, then you are wasting it. Making changes to your life isn’t necessarily easy, no-one said it would be but once you have made them they can make your life easier and happier.
There is an assumption with a New Year’s Resolution that you only need to decide to take a different action and you can succeed if you try hard enough. That’s not true. Sometimes you need to have support and help with the changes you want to make. Your decision to change things is the first step, but next you need to decide what resources you will need to succeed.
Resources for success
There are a number of different resources you may want to consider:
- A plan
- Books, literature
- A mentor, coach or guide
- A support group
How are you going to realise the success that you need. A positive outlook and ability to reframe when things get tough is essential. If you don’t have these yourself then reading literature or using a mentor or support group may help. It may be that you need to plan different steps and mini goals along the way. This can help, particularly if your goal is a large one. For example, losing 5 stones is a huge undertaking and may take you more than a year, so breaking it down into half stone increments can help. When I plan my business building, I work on attracting one new client at a time. They build up into two and three and then more… You may choose to focus on losing a pound at a time, or even just focus on the food you put in your mouth one bite at a time. It doesn’t matter, it just means that you are working in small steps towards your goal, whatever that might be.
Consider your goals carefully
What is important is that you focus on continuing with your new goals as well as hitting them. Don’t choose the same goals you failed at last year. Evaluate what you really want, not what you think you ought to want and make a plan so that you will succeed this time. If you are only in it half heartedly then you won’t succeed, so be honest with yourself and decide what you will go for this year.
Remember that unmanageable goals and poorly planned goals will fall by the wayside. It may seem like a bit of overkill but make sure that you have all the information and support you need before you start. So what if you didn’t start on the 1st January? If you plan and prepare but start on the 8th you are more likely to succeed and get the results you want than if you jump in without all the resources and plans you need on the 1st.
Choose really specific goals. ‘Losing weight’ and ‘doing more exercise’ are all well and good but how much weight do you want to lose and how often do you want to exercise?
My New Year’s Resolutions
For this year, my promises to you are
- To be honest about what you need to do to succeed, even if sometimes that means telling you things you don’t want to hear
- To work with as many people who want to work with me personally to support and help them in losing weight and building body confidence and self-esteem
- To help you to help yourself through podcasts, videos, blogging and one to one work
If you want to work with me this year to achieve your goals or resolutions or whatever you want to call them and are ready for honesty, support and understanding then book your initial consultation with me. And please… let me know below what you want to get out of 2013.