Sometimes when you do something and become familiar with it you can forget what it’s like to learn. You can forget how scary it can be to take the first steps into the new skill. For example driving a car. I remember the first time behind the wheel I felt so scared that I was in control of this huge machine and not sure how I was going to control it. So, I had a great reminder today speaking with a client as I tried to persuade her to take the leap off the cliff into the unknown.
I have been off the diet for two and a half years now.
I sound like I’m at Serial Dieters Anonymous don’t I (no, I don’t think it really exists 🙂 ). Hello, my name is Rachel, I haven’t dieted since July, 2010. I’m a size 12 to 14 (UK sizes) and I’ve been that size since November 2010. In other words I’ve kept the weight off for over 2 years. So, I’ve kind of forgotten how scary it is to take the leap and ignore all the diet advice you’ve ever been given.
This is not an excuse to binge
There is a huge difference between throwing off the shackles of a diet and going on a huge binge. Throwing off the shackles is about forgetting points, sins, calories and any other units of measurement and reacting to your body. It’s about allowing yourself to eat the food that you want and recognising that, over time, you will eat a pretty balanced diet. Don’t forget that ‘diet food’ and healthy foods don’t have a lot in common, just as low fat or low calorie foods are not the same as healthy foods. For more on this have a look at my previous guest post from Becky at Ilkely Nutrition.
But the real issue is the fear you will have
about taking that step. As my client from today put it, ‘it’s not the same as falling off the wagon’ and my response was, ‘no, it’s making a conscious effort to step down and believing that you will step onto the ground’. In other words, it’s having faith in your own ability to eat the food that you want and regulate yourself.
Of course there will be other contributing factors to your weight and size. These may be related to your self esteem and confidence, or they may simply be related to comfort. You will have to address them. But going on yet another diet will not do that for you. So step off the wagon, plant your feet firmly on the ground and then decide what you need to work on.
I know it’s scary. I know there may be many reasons you’d rather wrap yourself in your weight or your fat clothes or hide behind your large jolliness. But trust me, it’s the only way to lose it for good.
Tell me below what scares you the most about stepping down. If you need it, I can hold your hand as you do it – that is what I am here for.