I hate so called ‘thinspiration’.
I can’t help feeling that the people who write them actually hate their bodies and need to feel that all the effort is worth it, so they write these ‘thinspiration’ messages to validate themselves. I hope I’m wrong because if not, that’s terribly sad.
What I do know though, is that there are millions of women around the world who hate their bodies for all sorts of reasons and that the current barrage of ‘thinspiration’ doing the rounds is making them feel worse and not better.
If you’re not sure what I’m talking about I mean the inspirational quotes that you often see on Facebook or Pinterest, sometimes accompanied by a sculpted, sweating female body. This is one I saw recently: “You’ll get a lot more compliments for working out than you will for sleeping in”.
Let’s think about what this is saying.
- Working out will give you a noticeably skinnier body, which is more attractive to people who are only interested in you for what you look like and feel that they have to validate you on your appearance.
- You should be aiming to attract validation from others on your appearance
- Sleep isn’t important
- Not working out means you are lazy
Why would you want to sleep rather than workout? Perhaps because you have a busy life, a family, a business that you are trying to grow and clients that you are supporting, so you know the importance of getting enough sleep, not only to support yourself but also to support the other people that rely on you.
Those people who rely on you, such as your clients, will actually want you to be more alert when they speak to you. They want to know that you are thinking carefully about how you can serve and support them in your coaching sessions and although any compliments only link to your sleep patterns indirectly, you will probably find that you receive compliments on your professionalism and the results you are helping them to get, when you are working together.
I know that many women want to look good and they want to feel beautiful.
However, busy women have a lot to do and beauty is not necessarily six pack abs and a sculpted body.
In my humble opinion, feeling good about your body means treating it well, listening to it and taking exercise that you enjoy and feel motivated to do, rather than being bullied into it.
Let’s stop telling ourselves that we can’t be healthy, attractive or professional if we don’t conform to the skinny stereotype.
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Let’s support each other, as business women, to make friends with our bodies, to take care of them to the best of our abilities in our life as we live it and to know that our value and worth in this world is measured on so many things – not just appearance.
For the record, if you want to compliment me, I want to know you like the colour of my outfit, that my kids are well behaved, that you like my recent blog post (hint, hint!) or that something I did or said helped you. Speaking of which, if you haven’t already, please download my free gift report: 3 Ways Poor Body Confidence is Costing You Clients.