Having a business email address that’s pretty easy to find means I get a lot of junk mail. If you’re in business I guess you might do too. Well, I just got this great one with the subject line: ‘No-one wants to be fat’.
I guess maybe not. It’s not like we all thought, growing up, “When I’m older I want to be fat,” but personally I think that what’s worse than being fat is being judged.
I think that is the key; nobody wants to be judged on their size.
You see, being fat or overweight comes with attachments (rather like those junk emails). It seems to be synonymous with ‘unhappy’, ‘lazy’, ‘unprofessional’, ‘unattractive’, ‘having no willpower’,’ unhealthy’.
And unfortunately, as women, told these things often enough, we can begin to internalise this and come to believe that if we are overweight that we must have other negative personality traits.
We start to define our worth in terms of a number on a scale, or in our jeans. We begin to believe that in order for our business to be successful, to grow as a professional or to be taken seriously, running our business that we need to be thin. But why?
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As I see it there are a number of flaws with this:
- How fat is fat? What is ‘fat’. To some extent most women view themselves as larger than they actually are and compare themselves less favourably with others. One person’s ok may be what another views as too fat. It’s all about perspective and confidence.
- Gaining weight and having a problem with your weight can be for all sorts of reasons but is rarely because you are lazy or a bad person. Often there are much deeper psychological reasons or physiological reasons that have nothing whatsoever to do with your personality.
- The amount of body fat you carry is no indicator of your personality, your attitude towards you work or your attractiveness. End of story.
- You can be healthy at any weight. You can also be unhealthy at any weight. They are not necessarily an indicator of each other.
It’s about self belief, it’s about being the best person you can be, it’s about standing up and saying ‘This is who I am, this is what I do, this is what I can do for you’ and being confident in yourself that your professionalism and your ability to get the job done has NOTHING whatsoever to do with your weight or your dress size.
If you struggle a little with that and you’d like to find out how I can help you,then you can apply for a Discovery Session with me. I’d love to speak with you 🙂