None of us is perfect, me included. Recently I have started to realise that I have fallen into a trap that I was supposed to have escaped. For regular readers you’ll know my story (for those who don’t here’s a quick recap: busy working mum of 3, overweight for years, found an amazing hypnotherapist, lost 2 dress sizes, trained and started my business helping people lose weight with hypnotherapy). So imagine my surprise recently when I found myself realising that I was denying myself the foods I love.
It’s easy to fall into the trap when you know no better. You think (because of the many diets you have done previously) that the foods you need to eat are salads, vegetables, lean protein, not too many carbs etc. You know in your head that fat is bad so you daren’t eat chocolate, chips, crisps incase you go overboard and eat too many.
This is exactly where I was about 2 weeks ago. I realised that if I wanted something I thought I shouldn’t want anymore that I was not allowing myself to eat it. And guess what? It was becoming more and more attractive.
The damage we do to ourselves when we diet is that we skew the way we see food. We make things into big baddies and we make them all the more attractive for it. I call it releasing your ‘inner teenager’. You just want to rebel against the rules 🙂
Without realising it I had actually put myself on a diet. Albeit one without anything written down or consciously entered into but even so, it had rules about what I could and couldn’t eat. Rules that if I broke, I felt guilty or weak.
Hypnotherapy is about replacing old habits with new better ones. It can be easy to gain new habits at any time. The beauty of it is, if you can identify when you are starting to slip into old habits or new bad habits you can simply go back to the hypnosis you had before, which is why all my sessions are recorded and given to clients in MP3 or CD format. They can refer back to them whenever they need to.
So, I have gone back to the beginning and decided to allow myself anything I want, as long as I want it, am hungry and I stop when I’m full. I haven’t exploded into a beached whale and I feel happier and more content. You need to give yourself permission to eat anything. That includes chocolate, cake, crisps, chips, biscuits, mince pies – the works. Then you need to eat them, without guilt, tasting and enjoying them and stopping when you feel you have had enough. It’s funny, when you have a storecupboard full of the stuff you don’t allow yourself, after a while it starts to just sit there, untouched.
We have to remove the fear of the food and the hold it has over us. I have realised, regrouped and am ready to take on the world again. I understand if you find this hard to believe because I did too but I am here to help you with it whenever you are ready to take the plunge.
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