Whenever I look at myself in the mirror I’m hyper critical. I generally try to practise what I preach and find the bits I like and encourage myself, however, sometimes it can be tricky when you want to look your best.
As I’m sure you know, I have lost a lot of inches and over 2 dress sizes since I started on my weight loss journey. I am still losing slowly and I am much happier now than I was at the start. But recently it occurred to me that, no matter how much weight I lose, I will have to come to terms with my shape.
At age 18 I was a very slim size 8-10. For my birthday I bought a gorgeous shift dress that I loved but even now as I look at it I can see a little tummy, to the extent that the dress is straining over it a little. When I look back at photos of me wearing the dress I am by no means overweight but the tummy is visibly there.
Even now, 2 dress sizes smaller than I was when I started on my weight loss journey, I notice that if my trousers fit over my tummy then they are a little too baggy around the bottom and thighs.
This has nothing to do with being overweight or not, it has to do with my body shape. We come in all different shapes and sizes. Luckily, over recent years there has been a great deal of TV airtime given to which clothes flatter different shapes allowing us to make the best of our bodies. That said, we really have to come to terms with our shape and learn to love it. Not all of us were born to have huge chests or slim legs. Many of us suffer with our wobbly tums (me included!) or saggy thighs.
So, given that changing your shape is not an option, what can we do to come to terms with the quirks of our bodies as we lose inches and weight.
Well, I always recommend finding the bits that you do like. There has to be some part of your body that you are happy with. Look in the mirror, find it and smile. Tell yourself how fantastic it is and feel the boost that you are giving yourself. Next, find some advice on the best way to accentuate your best bits and fake the other bits; if you weren’t destined to be tall and slinky, then wear long trousers and heels to make the illusion of being taller!
Try to identify the shape you are, come to terms with it and dress to flatter and accentuate the positives. Look at it as finding your body’s sliver lining if you like 😉